It seems that many people are attracted to online dating. It is not surprising that it has become hugely popular in recent times; suddenly having people messaging and arranging potential dates can be quite exciting. Addictive in fact.
For the main part, most people tend to go onto online dating sites to find a life partner and then get off the site quickly, sometimes never to return. There are some however, who find that being on the site is actually more exciting than the prospective of finding true love. They become obsessed with logging on and reviewing their emails. The time they spend online increases and starts to revolve around several dating sites. Conversely they start spending less time with their friends off the site in case they miss an important message from someone on the dating site.
How can you tell if you are addicted to online dating?
So how do you know if you might be addicted to online dating? If you can answer yes to any of the following you may have a problem:
- You log on to your online dating sites as soon as you get home from work.
- You spend most of your free time in front of your computer so that you do not miss any messages.
- You are spending more and more time logged onto your dating site, going to bed later and this is affecting your day.
- You get annoyed or irritated if you do not get any messages.
- You start to check on past dates to see whether they are still active on the site.
- You start to see the same people on different dating sites.
So why is it that some people become addicted to the endless chase of many different loves?
Why do people become addicted to online dating?
With online dating you immediately enter into a world of never-ending choices. New people sign up every day, you can peruse your options as often as you like and keep change the characteristics of the person you are looking for.
However, having so many options available can make it nigh on impossible to focus on the person who is sat in front of you at that very moment. In your mind you are always elsewhere, wondering if you could get someone a little better, someone who may be more suited to you, or with a more fun outlook. But that person could be on the date with you right now. Because you are not present in that moment, you are thinking about logging online and messaging someone new, you could miss a real opportunity to connect with them.
The problem is that it is very much human instinct to be curious and adventurous, I mean, why settle for just one when you can try out a whole range of opportunities?
Whilst in some areas of our lives it is fantastic to have several options available to us. However, when the important element is the search and not the end result that is the driving force in our quest, we then have a problem.
It is perfectly acceptable to realise there are certain features in a prospective partner that we won’t put up with. But when you are picking out silly little niggles about every single person you go on a date with, simply to get onto the next potential date, then this becomes addictive behaviour.
What do to if you are addicted to online dating
If you are worried that you might be addicted to online dating then perhaps you should take a break and spend some time offline for a while. Go out with your real friends and enjoy their company and leave dating alone for a short period of time.
Remember that dating should be the means to the end, and the end is finding your one true love, not endless options that lead nowhere.