Our favourite anthropologist, Helen Fisher on the Anatomy of Love
Anthropologist Helen Fisher takes on a tricky topic – love – and explains its evolution, its biochemical foundations and its social importance.
Dr Helen Fisher gives a TED talk on why we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it? To learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love, Helen Fisher and her research team took MRIs of people in love — and people who had just been dumped.
Our success rate is an impressive 80% but do you know what happens to the other 20%?
Living and working in London is super hectic. Our clients (and most people in London) work very hard. They also have full social lives and friendships. All of this takes time, obviously.
When you are used to working long, long hours and filling days with all the other fabulous things that London has to offer, it will be a challenge to make some space to actually meet someone special.
At Elan.London, we drastically reduce the amount of time it takes to find a partner but one of our biggest frustrations is when we have a perfect match for a client and they are just too busy to meet them. Then times flies by, the moment is gone and the person meets someone else.
You may think that it wasn’t meant to be then but we are a little more realistic and proactive and truly believe that to find true love, to find a lasting life long relationship, you MUST be proactive and you absolutely MUST make time to meet people.
That’s our 20% and that’s why we always ask every potential client, ‘Be honest, do you have time to meet someone?’
You see, taking action and making the decision to find ‘the one’, doesn’t stop when you engage a matchmaking agency, you need to ensure you have the rest of your life balanced so that you can let someone in. You have to be available for a date and of course you have to be available for a relationship.
So, do you have the time? How important is finding your soul mate to you? Will you regret not making the time?
Call us on 0207 630 6015 for a chat about time and your future happiness.
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around.
You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.
You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.
When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement.
They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself.
Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.
There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are.
The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.
Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face.
In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you.
You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon.
You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you.
You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”