How to become Catnip to men

What do men find most attractive?

Men are biologically programmed to find attractive traits in women. It is in their nature.

Generally speaking, men are first and foremost visually stimulated, but can be drawn towards a number of different attributes. However, knowing what men find attractive in a woman is not rocket science. It is pretty similar to what women find attractive in men, but with a few differences.

Imagine you are walking into a party; what would it take for you to notice a man in the room?

~ Someone who is gregarious, who is the centre of attention, making people laugh?

~ Someone who is facially attractive and well groomed?

~ A man who is not too big or that small, but looks as though they take care of themselves?

~ A person who appears to be kind towards others, and respectful of other people’s views?

~ Someone who is not afraid to voice their opinions, and is passionate about personal causes?

Well, it probably won’t be surprising that these are exactly the same factors that make a woman attractive to a man. They are just not in the same order. Men tend to place physical attributes slightly higher than character based ones, usually in this order:

  1. Facial attraction
  2. Physical attributes
  3. Happy demeanour
  4. Warm and nurturing nature
  5. Character

Let’s look at these factors in more detail:

Facial attraction

Studies have shown that if a man is looking for a one-night stand, he will place more importance on a woman’s body than any other feature. However, when he is pursuing a serious relationship, a woman’s face is the crucial element.

In a study at the University of Austin at Texas, 75% of men, who wanted a long-term relationship, stated that a woman’s face was more important to them than her body.

Physical Attributes

Some men may admit to favouring one part of a woman’s body over another. However, studies have shown that the ratio between the waist and the hips is the most important factor.

Evolutionary psychologists believe that this hip to waist ratio is a key indicator of good and fertile sexual health. The ideal ratio is within the 0.6 to 0.8 range, which is typically the classic hourglass figure, commonly associated with Hollywood star Marilyn Monroe.

Professor Devendra Singh, at the University of Texas, held a number of experiments and found that in younger men aged 18 to 22, the favourite shape for women was this classic hour-glass figure.

Happy demeanour

A bright and sunny outlook can really turn a man on. There is nothing like a flirty laugh and to watch a woman having a fun time to make a man wish he was part of it.

If you have a miserable face and look depressed all the time, don’t think that someone is going to want to help solve your problems, they will not.

And if you spot a guy in a bar, don’t be afraid to make eye contact and smile. Let him know you are interested. Men are not mind readers, give them a signal that it’s ok to come over.

Warm and nurturing nature

Men like to be known as the stronger sex, but there are times when they need some care and attention. A woman that understands this, who can look after a guy with warmth and love is going to enjoy a wonderful relationship.

Women that are cold and emotionally blocked will have a hard time with men who require a little extra attention occasionally. It is fine to be a strong and independent woman, but the sexes need different things at alternating times.

Being able to swap roles is essential for a successful relationship, but also very attractive to a male.


You can be the prettiest girl in the world, but if you have no character, you won’t be very attractive for someone looking for a long term relationship.

Once a man has been attracted by your physical features, he will then start to delve a little deeper. If he is thinking long term, it will be important to him that he can trust you, that you share the same morals and values, particularly if he wants to start a family.

Men like women who know their own mind and possess a strength of character and integrity.

Final Points

Good relationships are where couples are able to be themselves. And if you cannot do that from the start, it probably won’t end well. So be yourself, and here’s hoping you’ll find your perfect match. We can obviously help you with that!